In my last post, I had discussed the new phase of parenting. I called it different parenting because my son who is 12 years old needs to be treated differently. After observing him for 3 weeks, I realized that he needs to be tackled differently. In those weeks, he threw tantrums almost on everything. His behaviour was changing which was leading him towards rudeness. Now, the question is How to tackle a teenage child?
Seriously, I was also confused on this question and tried some ways to handle him differently.
Initially I focused on these points
Stop Interruption : Initially, I stopped the interruptions in his time-wasting activities. I did this because I was quite worried about his behaviour rather than activities. My interruption was making him rude, introvert, and repulsive. Then I started taking interest in all those activities which he loves to do. For example, he likes watching cartoons, spending time in doing nothing, and the most harmful activity -video games. I started asking questions on all these. The effect of this step was, he started talking to me and answered all my questions happily.
Admission to Academy: He loves to play badminton then I worked out on nearby academies where they give training. After finalizing, I took him to the academy and take admission. The benefit of this step was: Good health and less time on mobile.
Way to Kitchen: He loves cake and noodles. On every Sunday I started making cake and noodles which makes him happy. Initially he was interested in having them then I started taking small help while making cake. Slowly and gradually he learnt to bake a cake from Oreo biscuits. Then I taught him to tea-making and coffee-making. The benefits of this step was he learnt cooking which is far better to watch cartoon or playing video games.
To be continued .....
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Teenage is a tricky phase but when handled with care, it becomes a fun phase for us as a parents. Not interrupting on every small thing is the key. Now they are not kids and we shouldn't expect that they will follow every word we say the way they sed to do earlier. Instead, taking interest in their activities, having a practical conversation works.
ReplyDeleteTeenage is such a tricky age as that of toddlers if you ask me. For toddlers, a generous dose of hugs would be sufficient. But for teenagers its more of patience and companionship that we need to offer.
ReplyDeleteI am enjoying this phase,, having a teenager at home makes me feel young and I can keep myself updated. Yes at times it is difficult to understand them nut it is definitely not impossible.
ReplyDeleteIt feels like this series of teenage parenting is for me, I am noting down all your points as i am heading towards this path. One thing I observed that these mood swings and behavioral changes start to reflect in the tween age itself. You know by this series you are genuinely helping so many teenagers and pre-teenager's parents like me.
ReplyDeleteThis was a ver nicely written blog on parenting, I have kids who will be in teenage in 5 yrs but this is good insight
ReplyDeleteI agree with you. Less Interruption is the key and physical activities are also good to keep them engaged. Looking forward to read more on this topic.
ReplyDeleteYour blog post took me back in time when my son was a teenager. I did exactly the same thing. Got him into the kitchen and now he is a master chef and loves cooking for his sons.
ReplyDeleteTeenage parenting can be tricky. Too little then they do their own thing and too much they start rebelling. :-)
ReplyDeleteNot a mother but m younger neice is a teen, but your article is to the point!
ReplyDeleteThe transition phase is quite tricky, with my 7 year old girl, I sometimes I feel I need to change my parenting strategy..LOL..Keep sharing :)
ReplyDeleteAs parents, we have to find a balance between allowing them what they want to do and keeping a control. I am really liking your series.
ReplyDeleteManisha - I think these are some great ways to bond with teenagers. Will keep in mind for the right time.
ReplyDeleteI am not a parent but I do feel that we should let teens be (up to a point). This is a crucial phase, and imposing on them would be detrimental. I am sure your series would be helpful for the parents struggling with their teens.
ReplyDeleteYes teaching our kids kitchen skills are such an advantage for them cos wherever they go they will know how to feed themselves. I like these series of yours.
ReplyDeleteShahira
I am sure parenting today is an art and it certainly requires skills to understand and grow with your child:) such write ups are very much useful and much needed to increase the awareness levels too!!
ReplyDeleteAs parents, we have to learn and unlearn so many things . These tips are really gonna help me in future. I am really liking your series.
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I am not a parent but I do feel that we should let teens be (up to a point). This is a crucial phase, and imposing on them would be detrimental. I am sure your series would be helpful for the parents struggling with their teens.
ReplyDeleteAarav is 3 years old and I already follow kitchen help with him. These pointers will definitely be helpful for moms with teenagers.
ReplyDeleteI loved your first tip, to stop interruption. That itself is will help you build a good relationship. Somehow, we are so bound by our ego that elders are always right that we forget to consider the point of view of our children
ReplyDeleteYou post tells me that not only are you trying your best, but you are doing a great job with your teenager. Kudos!
ReplyDeleteMayuri/Sirimiri
Very informative. Handy tips, my son will soon be a teenager , will try to remember these tips
ReplyDeleteIt's a tricky phase and also has to be handled carefully. Some good pointers on how to handle here
ReplyDeleteThe transition from being a child to teenager is always difficult. But you have been a wonderful parent , I must say, patiently trying to understand him, making his favorite things, taking your time out for him and most importantly letting him talk his heart out. Thanks for sharing these real experiences with us.
ReplyDeleteGood points to keep in mind. As far as I remember, my mom used to say the same. At a point I was a very moody person. Yells at almost all the things.. So this oa something every child goes through.
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